January is an emotionally fragile month for our clients. Although some people view is it as month to make New Year’s resolutions, many of our clients are recovering from the holiday that represented a significant change in their family.
A Letter to My Ex
This month, the Divorce Support Circle started out with clients writing a letter to their ex. After all, hindsight is a wonderful thing. It makes you look back, and reflect on the lessons offered by red flags. This activity allowed clients to reflect on their marriage with fresh eyes bestowed by distance. It was also used as a therapeutic outlet for clients to channel some of their anger, grief and pain.
It’s Ok to Be Honest with Yourself
While it is easy to assume that clients used the letters as an outlet for blaming their ex-spouse for the divorce, most of our clients reflected on some positive memories created as a couple/family unit and even some teachable moments from their ex-spouse. Writing a letter even made some realize that they just were not compatible or lacked common goals. Maybe just maybe, some thought, the divorce as hard as it was, was the right thing to do.
Put Your Feelings to Paper
If you want to say things to your ex and don’t know how to say it, get a blank sheet of paper and write it all out. You don’t have to send the letter, but it will be a very effective way for you to log your thoughts and feelings. It’s an outlet to give you more perspective, a sense of closure and reassurance that nothing was left unsaid.
Divorce Advice Fairfax
Come join us at the next Divorce Support Circle on February 11, 2020. The Divorce Support Circle is held once per month and is facilitated by the firm’s psychologist/divorce coach, Dr. Leah Nathan. RSVP to lnathan@cgglawyers.com.