Frequently Asked Questions

We have eighteen employees. Our nine attorneys are Heather A. Cooper, David L. Ginsberg, Daniel L. Gray, Nathan J. Olson, Stephanie J. Smith, Carly M. Anderson, Kristen L. Kugel, Alexander T. Lewis, and Alexandra B. Brumfield. Our four paralegals, who support the attorneys, are Joanne Randa, Cheri Federici, Jamie Montoney, and Jennifer Horn. Dr. Leah Nathan is the firm’s Divorce Coach. Our administrative team consists of administrative assistants Hasti Esmaeili and Melissa Cho, Billing Manager Lauren Oufiero, and Office Manager Robert Kotwicki.

Many clients ask us this question, which is difficult to answer. We strongly disagree with a “scorched earth” approach to family law litigation, firmly believing that no family is served by an expensive and bruising court battle. However, there are times when one spouse decides to be unreasonable; when a party may have a serious disability such as alcoholism; or when an opposing counsel takes unreasonable positions. Our attorneys have all dealt with such scenarios numerous times. We counsel our clients not to play games or fight dirty, but we will aggressively protect your interests should the need arise.

This law firm does not offer a flat fee for its family law services. Please refer to the Fees section of our website for further information and for tips on keeping your fees and costs down. Click here for more information.

No. We charge for initial consultations at the normal hourly rate of the attorney with whom you meet. Typically, initial consultations last approximately one hour.

The firm practices law in all Northern Virginia jurisdictions, including Fairfax, Arlington, Alexandria, Loudoun, Prince William and surrounding counties. A few of our attorneys are admitted to practice in other states (District of Columbia and Maryland) although non-Virginia cases are generally referred to lawyers specializing in those jurisdictions.

The decision to file a lawsuit for divorce has far-reaching impacts. A fault-based divorce can be very expensive and filled with animosity. However, there may be valid reasons for filing a fault-based divorce. For example, there is no waiting period to file for divorce on the fault grounds of adultery. Circumstances may require that a fault based divorce be filed to obtain immediate relief from the court. Only you can make the decision, and only after you have discussed all the ramifications with your lawyer.

Generally, filing first provides no real or lasting advantage or benefit. However, it may be an issue when the Court is deciding whether to assess fees against a certain party. A party who instigates litigation unreasonably may be viewed in a poor light by a judge.

Every person reacts to divorce differently and has different ways of dealing with this stressful period. Behavior that may be acceptable from one person in a given divorce may be completely destructive in another situation. However, there are general rules that should govern your conduct:

• If at all possible, try to maintain respectful communication with your spouse and frequent communication if you have children.
• Do not enter into any agreements without first speaking to your lawyer.
• Never threaten or abuse your spouse or children.
• While you can tell your lawyer anything you wish, never say anything to anyone else that you wouldn’t want repeated to your spouse, your spouse’s friends or family, your family, your spouse’s lawyer, or a judge.
• Never destroy records or attempt to hide or secret assets.
• Bear in mind, especially if you have children, that you will be dealing with your spouse for years to come. Divorce brings an end to your marriage; it does not make your spouse vanish. Reasonable concessions and a respectful attitude during your divorce generally pay untold dividends afterwards.
• Seek professional help in dealing with your divorce. The stress of this process can exact a heavy physical and emotional toll. Most people involved in a divorce would benefit from limited or long-term counseling and a doctor’s care to help them through the divorce.
• When can I begin dating? From a legal perspective, you remain married until you are divorced, even if you have physically separated from your spouse. Any sexual relations with a third party may give your spouse fault grounds for divorce. Introducing a third party into the divorce process can have a significant impact on custody and support issues, and on the negotiated resolution of your case. Bring the subject up with your lawyer before you start seeing anyone socially.

Legal custody refers to the right to make important decisions on behalf of a minor child. Parents may share “joint legal custody” or one parent may be awarded “sole legal custody.” Physical custody refers to the child’s living arrangements. A parent may have “primary physical custody” (meaning that the child resides primarily with that parent while the other parent has “visitation” or “custodial access”), “sole physical custody” (meaning that one parent has physical custody to the exclusion of the other parent) or “joint physical custody” (meaning that the parents share custody on an approximately equal basis).

Most of the time, parents may expect the court to award joint legal custody or decision making authority. There are times when one parent cannot act in a child’s best interests, or where the parents cannot communicate due to a serious problem, such as physical abuse. In such circumstances, sole legal custody may be awarded, but this is quite rare. In terms of physical custody, the arrangements will depend on a variety of factors. It is impossible to predict a physical custody outcome without an extensive examination of each parent’s historical involvement with the child, future abilities to provide care, and past, present, and future relationships with the other parent.

Child support is generally a function of (a) each party’s gross income, (b) how much time the child spends with each parent, (c) day care and health insurance expenses, (d) historic expenses and the child’s standard of living. Child support is set by statute, and is automatically calculated under pre-established support guidelines that consider factors (a) through (c) listed above. The Court may “deviate” from those guidelines if circumstances require, but deviations are rare.

Pending a full resolution of the case, some county courts have spousal support guidelines that dictate the appropriate amount of spousal support based on a percentage of the payor’s gross income. Other localities have no guidelines and instead look to the recipient’s need and the payor’s ability to pay. On a long term basis, the court will consider the payor’s ability to pay and the recipient’s need. The intention of alimony, as expressed in the Virginia Code, is to provide a means for the recipient spouse to become self-supporting. Alimony may be payable for a defined duration or for the lifetime of the recipient spouse.

Virginia is an “equitable distribution” state, not an equal distribution state. In the absence of an agreement between the parties, the Court will divide the marital estate in a way that is equitable, or fair. The first step the process is determining whether the property at issue is separate and not subject to distribution, marital, or part-separate and part-marital. Once the Court classifies the property at issue, the property must be valued. The Court, after classifying and valuing, will distribute the property. The Court must consider many statutory factors when distributing the marital estate, such as the following:

• The monetary and nonmonetary contributions of each party to the care and acquisition of property.
• The monetary and nonmonetary contributions of each party to the well-being of the family.
• The duration of the marriage.
• The ages and physical and mental condition of the parties.

The Court may order the transfer of jointly-titled real estate to one party or the other, or the Court may order the property sold. Whether the Court orders the property sold depends upon the individual circumstances of each case and each party. Many times, the matter turns on whether one spouse can afford to purchase the other’s marital interest in the home, (e.g., by way of a refinance).

Mediation is a process by which parties try to resolve their disputes with the assistance of a third party, or mediator. The mediator may be a family friend, a lawyer, a therapist, or a professionally certified mediator. The process can be informal, as with a friend or pastor, or it can be more formal. The goal of mediation is to reach a fair compromise on all issues. Your lawyer should explain the different mediation options to you. Not every case or issue is amenable to mediation, because it requires a “level playing field.” If one party is at a distinct disadvantage or is physically afraid of the other party, mediation may not be appropriate.

Divorce coaching is a very proactive, solution-focused approach that is geared towards helping you navigate through the difficult hurdles you are likely to experience through the divorce process.

Divorce coaching will help you make informed decisions that directly impact your future.  Coaching is not therapy. While therapy focuses on understanding the past and on feelings, coaching is more action oriented in devising plans on how to problem solve and move forward. Essentially, coaching can help you to assess where you are going, how you are going to get there, and how to handle stressful situations as they arise. Relying on your coach’s expertise will keep you on track with your divorce.

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Benefits of Coaching?

1. Getting Results: This is one of the major benefits of coaching. By regularly meeting with your coach and taking the actions needed to meet your goals, you will see more consistent results. Clients often report that they met their goals at a faster pace with a divorce coach than when they were trying to reach them alone.
2. Thinking Partner: Your coach will provide you solid emotional guidance that will help you to explore options and develop action plans that are in your best interest.
3. Growth Mindset: Your coach will help foster a growth mindset to help you move through stressful situations, as opposed to getting stuck in a rut with fixed mindsets.
4. Accountability: Your coach challenges you to follow through on effective action plans, and they will guide you through any hurdles that arise.
5. Increased Confidence in Decision Making: Your coach will help you to envision the future. The clearer these next steps look, the more confidence you will experience.

If you are wondering if you would make a good candidate for coaching, do a quick check to see if you are:

• Stressed
• Overwhelmed
• In need of extra support
• Indecisive
• In need of a thinking partner

Areas that divorce coaching targets are:

• How to communicate with your spouse/ex-spouse
• How to tell a spouse that you will be filing a divorce
• How to inform the kids about the divorce
• Stress management tips
• Adjusting to life during a separation/divorce
• How to make informed decisions
• Coping with anxiety
• Getting through the grief cycle
• Organizational skills
• Introducing a new significant other to the kids
• Blending families
• And more…this is only a tip of the iceberg

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